There's something beautifully ironic about launching a podcast called How To Be...only to discover, episode by episode, that none of us really has it all figured out – and that's exactly the point…

Authenticity isn't about always speaking your mind or letting your emotions run wild. It's about being true to your core values and acting in a way that aligns with a deeper version of yourself.

Now, I'm not going to sit here and tell you that every aspect of my life is perfect since making that decision. Any coach who claims that is probably trying to sell you something. But what I can say is that building this career for myself, on my own terms, is one of my proudest achievements and one of the most rewarding things I've done. And helping my clients do this for themselves is something I really pride myself on.

The important thing to know about 8s is that beyond their hard exterior lies a vulnerable child who needed protection, understanding and unwavering loyalty. So if you want to get the best out of an 8, that’s what they need from you.

But when I ask about their dreams for themselves, few have clarity and many start describing side steps or little wins instead of big leaps forward - even when the question is about their DREAMS! It's like we can’t let ourselves think freely about what the dream would even look like. We can’t see our endless possibilities because we’re so bogged down by our current reality.

In my talks with countless individuals who feel drained and stuck in their jobs, I've noticed a recurring trio of reasons as to why they're apprehensive about seeking new horizons. However, if there's anything the world has taught us, especially post-COVID-19, it's that the traditional 9-to-5 job is evolving. And so should our perceptions.

In today's post, we're exploring a concept called the 'Adult' state from Transactional Analysis and its potential to unlock meaningful change.

While they can be all about the fun, 7s can also be very productive people who channel their enthusiasm into being busy at work, creating multiple options for their clients or the team to ensure satisfaction.

I’ve realised I want my business coaching to be accessible to as many people as possible, which means offering a more affordable service.

It’s not that they don’t care deeply, 5s can be very nurturing given the chance, but their focus is often distracted by the other demands of life which feel BIG & the false belief that they won’t have the resources to deal with whatever arises.

All of my clients want the same thing. They want to feel a sense of freedom - liberated enough to take off their mask and be themselves, to stop towing the party line.

I'm often asked "How am I ever going to do this?". And I'm starting to see the patterns clearly enough that I could actually answer that question.

The biggest light bulb moment of not just my career but probably my whole life has been finally realising that there is no such thing as the right way.

Think Johnny Cash, Joni Mitchell and Bob Dylan! Plus 90% of the world’s greatest movie directors! They see things differently to most of us & when they can express themselves & bring us into their world we ALL feel more connected to ourselves & each other - even if unified by shared pain, in there lies the inspiration for action.

They’re talented chameleons who can shapeshift to present whatever the crowd is looking for - making them awesome at pitching & fun to be around at the Christmas party! But as with every Enneagram type, their strength is also their Achille’s heel.

Fulfilment, job satisfaction and a sense of purpose at work rely heavily on people having a sense of progress - which is readily available to those who know how to focus on the priority instead of falling victim to a scattered approach.

An overview of Enneagram Type 2s. As a 2 myself, it’s interesting coaching other 2s! I get to see how we confuse our purpose with what others want from us, and how we can break free of that if we want to (especially in our careers!).

A brief overview of the Enneagram Type 1 personality. Coaching 1s to help them find their purpose is always fun for me, as I watch them lean into their potential and do amazing things (if they can get out of their own way long enough, as with every Enneagram personality type!)

Even my most self-aware clients have found profound insights into themselves and their behaviours through our coaching work using the Enneagram as our guide. It takes no prisoners. It isn’t interested in self-pity or self-aggrandising either…